Jared wore a really nice dark blue suit this episode.
I mean, other things happened too, arguably more exciting things than a dark blue suit happening, but it was pinstriped.
Dancer Texas Pop. 81 (1998)
If you haven’t seen this film, you should, because it’s beautiful. If you’ve already seen it and you want more, AO3 has precisely 2 fics and you can find them here.
There are not enough words to express my love for this film.
'aromantics don't feel love / don't have relationships'
'no sexual attraction ever but sometimes gets randomly aroused? definitely sounds like grey-a.'
'everyone knows asexuals can have sex. the point is we don't want to.'
'stop trying to seem normal by saying asexuals can have sex.'
The other image was posted so…
(image description: poster with a purple-y background with the text “Just because I’m asexual does NOT mean: that you can draw any conclusions about my feelings about anything… not love, not sex, not romance, not desserts, not cats, not tv shows. It just means that I don’t experience sexual attraction to any gender.”)
- Just because an asexual says they would have sex with you doesn’t automatically make them not asexual
- Just because an asexual says they would have sex with you doesn’t mean that they will chase after sex with you like a sexual person would.
- If an asexual says they would have sex with you, you might be an exception.
- If an asexual says they would have sex with you, it means they care enough about you (the assumed sexual person) to give you something that you desire.
*it may mean they care enough about you (the assumed allosexual person) to give you something that you desire.
It may also mean that the asexual wants an orgasm and you (the assumed allosexual person) is conveniently there and willing to consent to that kind of hook up.
An asexual having sex with someone isn’t an automatic, across the board selfless decision to show that they care about that someone. While it might apply to some, applying it to all asexual + sex interactions sets a bad precedent and leads to bad assumptions about both asexuals who decide to have sex for any number of reasons baring sexual attraction and asexuals who decide to never have sex.
His face is so sad and confused.
a paranormal mockumentary show in the style of the office/parks and rec
revolving around the lives of employees at a hokey haunted mansion tourist trap that turn out to be actually hella haunted but most of its spirits are either benevolent or ineffectively malevolent
10/10 WOULD WATCH
Casual reminder that sex positive isn’t the other side of sex repulsed/averse.
Sex positive is a social movement that is encouraging of sex and views it as, basically, a good thing. This is grouped along with sex neutral (sex is neither inherently good or bad) and sex negative or anti sex (a negative view of sex).
Sex repulsed/averse is when a person is personally repulsed/revulsed/averse/squicked/icked/etc about all or some aspects of sex. What they’re repulsed/averse/etc to and how repulsed/avers/etc they are is going to vary from person to person. This is grouped with sex indifferent (no strong feelings about sex either way) and sex favorable*/sex enthusiastic*/likes sex (generally likes sex). These can work as a sliding scale type thing too. Like being somewhere in between indifferent and liking sex or repulsed by some thing and indifferent to other things.
(*there are some issues about naming this category, as people tend to get overly assumptive about it)
So, a person can be sex positive and sex repulsed, or sex neutral and likes sex, or any other combo like that.
And all of these are different from whether someone will actually choose to engage in sex. (though, of course, if someone is repulsed by sex they’re probably more likely to not ever choose to engage in it, but, like, it shouldn’t be assumed that someone who likes sex is going to agree to have sex whenever.)
It’s a good idea to note that this poster only applies to a specific set of asexuals, yet is framed in a way that assumes application to all asexuals, plus includes a misleading definition of asexuality. It completely erases aromantic asexuals, alloromantic asexuals who don’t do romance, and asexuals who do have sex. (along with asexuals who don’t like kissing or snuggling, asexuals who actually don’t feel as though they’re queer or straight, asexuals who may be incapable of love, etc…)
if i were a vulcan scientist i would be spending all my time trying to figure out how to stop pon farr from happening, like space can wait
right, I mean with the existence of pon farr space is an actual problem
even if you’re on a ship with an all-vulcan crew, if you can’t bring your s/o along you’re gonna end up needing to emergency-fuck someone and obviously that is sub-optimal
of course everyone involved would acknowledge that this was the logical thing to do (the alternative being what it is) but this is a touch-telepathic species and that much physical contact in a hyperemotional state has to have side-effects
the logical choice in the early days of long-term space travel would be to select a crew of bonded pairs, each member having a different necessary skill set, but that’s something you’d almost have to set up years in advance to make sure you’d have people with the right specialties because the odds of such a crew occurring naturally are pretty low
probably simpler to find some kind of hormonal treatment that would mimic the satisfaction of the mating impulse and thus end pon farr, though the long-term health consequences of doing so would be difficult to predict
…i love you.